When it comes to alcoholism, most people who love an alcoholic want answers once they finely admit that their friend or relative has a problem. They want to know why someone chose alcohol over them or why their spouse or friend became an alcoholic while someone else might just eat a little too much cake or become depressed. The truth is that there is no solid answer to this question given the fact that people all become alcoholics for different reasons some of which may have to do with their upbringing, some with genetic disposition, and some because of social pressure.
One thing that alcoholics have in common is that they generally share the same personality traits. While not every alcoholic may exhibit all of these traits, they will generally share at least a handful because the alcohol affects the brain in a similar manner. Additionally, the following list of traits are all personality traits of an alcoholic because in some way they leave a person open to alcoholism the same way that if you associate with the wrong people you are more likely to make a poor decision.
Some of the most common personality traits of an alcoholic are emotional immaturity, feeling isolated, low self-esteem, and dependency. Each of these personality traits usually leaves a person feeling low on a constant basis and makes them second guess their actions and decisions. As a result an alcoholic takes a drink to numb the pain that these traits bring along with them. Instead of dealing with the associated emotions, they begin to drink more and more which results in the development of alcoholism and even more traits.
Additionally, other common personality traits of an alcoholic include anxiety, poor interpersonal relationships, co-dependency, low tolerance for frustration, perfectionism, guilt, and grandiosity. Like the above list, the alcohol is used to numb the pain and emotion that is associated with these traits. Other traits that may stand out from the list such as perfectionism are commonly found in alcoholics because perfectionists tend to believe in all or nothing. Thus, when they cannot achieve something they fall off the ladder and reach for something they can achieve, which is a large amount of alcohol that numbs the pain.